One of the fears that frustrate many of our age, the youths, is the fear of being unable to find that certain, special someone. The love that we seek from an ‘other’ is different to the love that our parents/ caretakers give to us. It is a feeling of wanting and being wanted, to protect and be protected, an urge to give and receive, to touch and feel. Sometimes we ask ourselves…why is the waiting process so …long. Would it be worth the wait? Why do we long for an invisible half? There’s nothing wrong with being independent…but still… why does that lonely feeling tingle us in times of insecurity?
Are we so afraid of being alone?
This fear can hold us in a vice-like grip at the same time as we are learning, through a variety of maturing friendships, what it means to disclose the hidden self, to give, to be open. This makes the apprenticeship of intimacy doubly hard.
It is rather noticeable how some of us seek to escape from the closeness we crave rather than take the risk of relating to others.
-Edited from 'Just Good Friends?'-
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The ability to remain single is the ability to be independent.
Until you've learned to take care of yourself, can you then take care of another.
There is no right or wrong, only different perspectives in this matter.
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